Everyone wants to be liked. Given the choice between being liked or disliked, very few (sane) people would choose the latter. However, where does being liked rank on your list of priorities?
For some people, it’s at the top of their list. They wouldn’t admit it, but their actions prove otherwise. Keeping the peace, being on the “inside” of a selective peer group, or being considered “a nice person” is of the utmost importance. They avoid any form of conflict, fail to speak truth, and generally blend in with the majority crowd.
However, they often do so at the expense of contribution. They are less effective than they’re capable of being simply because they crave perception over progress.
If this is you, it’s possible to flip the script, and it doesn’t mean being a dislikable SOB.