I recently began a new workout routine. I was looking for something that I could do daily, and that I could take with me on the road and do in my hotel room. I’m learning (quickly) how much I’ve allowed my physical intelligence to wane due to the frantic, intense demands of life over the past several years. I’ve spent time on the treadmill, in the weight room, playing basketball, etc., but as this new workout has forced me to use every muscle in my body, I’ve learned (via the aches and pains) how many of them I’ve thoroughly neglected.
The most challenging exercises for me are not the “just push yourself and grunt through it” kind, it’s the “stand there and hold a pose as your muscles scream for relief” kind. Many of these require good posture and balance, neither of which are in my wheelhouse.
Finding Balance…
As I stood struggling to gain my sense of balance for a stretching exercise, the instructor on the DVD suddenly shouted “FOCUS! FIND YOUR CENTER!” I quickly realized that my mind had been racing in ten different directions as I was struggling to stay on my feet.
“Did I reply to that e-mail?”
“Do we have a post queued up for later today?”
“Why do my legs hurt so much?”
…
All of these side thoughts were silenced by the instructor’s command to focus. I snapped back to where I was, felt my body struggling, re-affirmed what I was trying to do (stay centered and balanced), and something amazing happened. I stabilized. I was balanced. Nothing had changed physically. I was still standing on one foot, arm outstretched, feeling the burn. But I was suddenly – because of a simple change of focus – perfectly poised and balanced.
It’s amazing – truly – that a simple change in focus could have that much power over my entire body’s ability to stay balanced. By clarifying my thoughts and eliminating distractions I changed my entire ability to engage in the exercise. (It still hurt, by the way.)
And Finding Balance…
I hear many creatives lamenting their inability to find a sense of balance in their life. This usually means that they feel overwhelmed by the volume of expectations in their work, and the pressure to produce is a specter that haunts them even when technically “off the clock”. (This is the value-versus-time tension described in chapter two of The Accidental Creative.) The weight of all that’s still undone feels oppressive and clouds everything else in their life.
But what if a shift in focus could change all of that? I’ve experienced frequently that defining the work to be done, truly clarifying objectives, and gaining a better sense of focus around ongoing expectations brings an immediate sense of balance to people and teams. The simple (but difficult) choice to truly focus on what’s in front of you rather than allowing everything “out there” to weigh you down brings an immediate sense of clarity of priorities.
Here are a few ways to apply this focus-shift:
Define your work. Do each of your projects have associated challenges? A challenge is a simple, non-complex question that defines what you’re really trying to do. I frequently find that a frantic sense of imbalance often stems from a lack of definition of objectives.
Commit to being single-minded. When you’re working on something, commit to that thing. Don’t bounce back and forth from task to task, priority to priority. Stay in the moment until it’s time to break and do something else. There is no such thing as true multi-tasking. You will probably end up doing both tasks less effectively.
Have dedicated time for centering. Block off several minutes a few times during your day to remind yourself of what you’re really trying to accomplish, and to re-define your work and expectations as needed. Don’t simply drift through your day following the plans you made yesterday or last week. Re-direct and re-define as needed, and find your center.
If you want to find a sense of balance, it begins with a commitment to the proper mindset. Take some time to center, simplify and define and you may find the stress dissolving and a sense of focused intensity in its place.
How about you? Do you have techniques for finding a sense of balance in your life and work?
This post reminded me of the book The Winners Brain (I did a book review on our blog: http://www.silversquareinc.com/blog/2010/08/the-winners-brain-a-book-review/). Exercise, for me, is mental health; staying fit is the by-product. My personality demands a good work out and it really does help me focus.
Also, delegating helps. For the longest time, I wanted to keep all the control and that’s just not realistic. I hired great people and now trust them to do all the important stuff just like me. They actually do it better than me. :)
Agreed completely, Raquel. I find that focus often results from a solid physical workout. I’ll check out The Winner’s Brain and your review.
I also agree regarding delegation. It’s always amazing to me that there are people who LOVE to do things that I dislike doing. The more I give away these tasks and avoid micro-management the better focus and traction I seem to gain.
Thanks for your thoughts!
Todd. Great advice.
I’ve learned a ton about being a better business manager from my musical background. One small but powerful focus technique I use is to think like my audience. When musicians become disconnected from their performance, the audience hears more than they do. It’s never good when the audience is more in tune with your performance level than you are as the performer.
Related to business, I consider ever opportunity to communicate with others or react to a circumstance as a musical performer. I have the choice to perform in an engaged manner or, I can let my audience be more engaged than I am. The later is not very comfortable. However, I know in my not so distant past, I did allow my audience to be more tuned in than I was. I don’t like being pressed to provide more info or worse, more accurate info. So, I try to always think like my audience.
That is an excellent point, Mark. There is a symmetry that exists between audience and performer and a kind of balance there. Keeping that symmetry in mind is helpful in doing work.
A very thought provoking article. I believe that you should build your life around a single minded purpose, in which all areas of your life are accommodated. That way, whatever you do, you are always focussed on that purpose. Then learn to say “no” to anything that does not complement the purpose. Thus, balance with purpose and getting rid of any unrelated demands on your capacity.
A very thought provoking article. I believe that you should build your life around a single minded purpose, in which all areas of your life are accommodated. That way, whatever you do, you are always focussed on that purpose. Then learn to say “no” to anything that does not complement the purpose. Thus, balance with purpose and getting rid of any unrelated demands on your capacity.